5 Ways to Ask for a Pay Rise - and Actually Do It Well

Raemona
15 hours ago
2 min read

Asking for a pay rise can feel awkward, emotional, or downright terrifying - especially for women, who are often taught to be grateful rather than bold.

But here’s the truth: asking well isn’t about being pushy. It’s about being prepared, confident and commercial.

If you’re ready to advocate for yourself (without apologising), here are five smart, grown-up ways to do it.

1. Lead with impact, not effort

Hard work alone doesn’t justify a pay rise - impact does.

Instead of saying:

“I’ve been working really hard…”

Say:

“Over the last X months, I’ve delivered Y results, which led to Z outcome for the business.”

Think:

Revenue generated or protected
Growth, efficiency, or savings
New clients, retention, leadership, visibility

Make it easy for them to connect you to value.

2. Time it strategically

Timing matters more than people admit.

Strong moments to ask:

After delivering a big win or project
During performance reviews or budget planning
When your role has clearly grown beyond its original scope

Avoid:

Emotional moments
High-stress business periods
Comparing yourself to colleagues

This is a business conversation - treat it like one.

3. Know your number (and your why)

Walking in with “I’d like more” isn’t enough.

Be clear on:

What you’re asking for (a number or range)
Why it’s justified (market rate, responsibilities, results)
What you want long-term (growth path, not just cash)

Confidence comes from clarity — not bravado.

4. Frame it as a partnership conversation

This isn’t a demand. It’s a discussion about alignment.

Try:

“I’d love to talk about how my contribution is reflected in my compensation and what growth here looks like.”

This signals:

Commitment to the role
Maturity and professionalism
Long-term thinking

The best pay rise conversations feel collaborative, not confrontational.

5. Be ready for a ‘not yet’ - and ask what yes looks like

A no doesn’t mean never. But only if you handle it well.

If the answer isn’t immediate:

Ask what milestones would justify a rise
Request a timeline or review date
Clarify expectations clearly

This turns a “not now” into a plan, not a dead end.

Asking for a pay rise isn’t about being entitled - it’s about recognising your worth and communicating it clearly. You don’t need to shrink, over-explain, or soften your value to be likeable.

You just need to be prepared.

Because advocating for yourself isn’t unprofessional - it’s powerful.